Dear Cristina:
I am going through a rough time with my fiance. I don't know if we are still together or not. He said he needs space. He doesn't stay at home. He just comes here to shower and change his clothes. He said it's not me, it's him. He never communicates with me. He said I ask too many questions. He said he isn't with anyone else. He changed the SIM card in his phone and never gave me the number. He got rid of our dog without talking to me. He had a sleepover with a co-worker and his family without talking to me about it. He said he wants friends. He said he doesn't know how he feels about anything and doesn't want to talk about anything, yet.
I feel he's pushing me away and sending mixed messages. He says he loves me, and then he doesn't know. He says he wants to still marry me, and then he doesn't know. I asked if being away from me was helping, he said yes and no. He didn't say why and I didn't ask. We have known each other for 2 years: friends for a year and then we started dating. He's my best friend but I feel I don't know him. I feel there are so many things I don't know about him. He has lied about things and finally owed up to it almost 2 weeks ago.
Something happened in his past, he said he was innocent and could prove it. I still have not seen any proof yet. He said he's staying at a co-worker's house but I don't know. At first he said he was sleeping in his truck. He said there's no one else but why can't he be around me? He hasn't slept at home for a week now. Did he find someone else? What's going on with him? I am being patient and allowing him to have space but it would be nice to know what is really going on with him. I do love him and would like to make this relationship work. I just don't know anything, anymore.
Sincerely, Titi
Blessings Titi!
Blessings Titi
Thank you for allowing me to answer your questions. First, your fiancé has mental issues that stem from childhood. I see a rough life at a young age, which causes him to be uncertain about his own actions. He is so confused about his own life that he cannot maintain a healthy relationship with anyone. There is no other woman; no one else is around him. But you may want to reconsider being with someone who is so detached from you and life that he cannot possibly make you happy. As far as what he did in the past that he was "innocent" of, he has an explanation but no real proof, so don't expect it. When he says he is spending the night with co-workers or his car, it's because he doesn't want you to carry him financially. Somehow, he wants to make it on his own when it comes to taking care of himself. You have to admire him for that.
You feel this is the end, because he does nothing to make you feel secure in the relationship? How can he when he is so broken himself? He is incapable of the kind of love you seek, because he has not been able to love himself and perhaps never will, unless he gets some sort of therapy or help. Which I see he won't do. As far as what is going on with him, he seems to be a loner, doesn't want to be a burden, he's trying to work, trying to stand on his own two feet. He lies about many things because he is used to that form of communication ever since he was a child. So to him a lie feels like the truth, when in fact it is not.
His constant confusion, depression and uncertainty will always leave you questioning and will always leave you unhappy. If you love him, and if you love yourself, let him go. He cannot and will not change without some sort of help. Enabling, and holding his hand and being there for him isn't helping him either. This man needs to be on his own for a while to figure out his life. Let him go for at least a little while, so you can find your own peace. You have the capacity to draw real love into your life because you have so much to offer. Open yourself up to other possibilities and you'll find the happiness you seek.
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Much love and light,
Cristina
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