With the fourteenth of February quickly approaching, a lot of people are starting to think about Valentine's Day and what they are hoping for on one of the most potentially fear-producing days of the year. Some people have come to dread this day while others look forward to it all year. Whether you have a Valentine, are looking for one, or could care less, the ideas below may help you to find what you are really hoping for, or at least will give you what you really need during this wondrously complicated holiday.
1) Re-spark love in a relationship
Sometimes when we get a little too used to someone who always seems to be there for us, we can forget to let that person know how special they are. We just get too caught up in the mundane day-to-day experiences we are used to and switch to autopilot to get us through our busy days. The problem is, we forget to switch to appreciation mode when we get time with that special someone and end up making them feel like they are not special anymore. In this case you might want to think back to when you first met this person and try to recreate some of the experiences that made it fun to be with them in the first place. Let them know how special they are and what they mean to you on this special day. But most importantly, do not fall back into this rut once this day has passed.
2) Be open to love
This may seem a little odd at first, especially when we feel alone and want someone in our lives. But take a step back and reconsider your opinion about where you are in your life or your relationship. If you are focused on all the negative things that seem to be happening to you at this time, you will surely miss out on the good things that are trying to manifest themselves in your life. Rethink your approach to love, confirm that you want to love and be loved. Focus on the positive things you have to offer someone and also consider what you like about the person you are with or if you are alone, the person you want to have in your life. You do not need to specify an actual person, just the personality traits you would like them to have. Focus on what love feels like and not on any negative emotions you may have been focusing on.
3) Be patient with love
Sometimes we get to feeling like we need something we want sooner than we have it. In this day and age of instants we may forget that it takes time for some things to manifest as they are meant to be. You can no sooner rush a fine wine to age more quickly than you can hurry love. While you might be facing this holiday alone, try not to get caught up in the disappointment that you do not have what you want as of yet. Time has a way of working things out so that you get something better than you had originally hoped for. And like the difference between an ordinary bottle of wine and an outstanding bottle of wine, time makes all the difference. Just because you do not have what you want this year does not mean you will not be joyful next year.
4) Be available and/or take action
Sometimes when we may have been patient long enough and still have not gotten the results we had hoped for, it is time to change our approach and try something new or different. Take a realistic look at perhaps why you do not have what you are wanting in your life at this time and then consider why this is and how you could change your situation. If you are in a set routine of doing things the same way all the time, it will be of little wonder that you are not meeting new people either. If you are not allowing others into your life then it should not come as a surprise that you are not happy with the number of possible relationship opportunities that come your way. Open yourself up to doing something different. Get out and try new things, go to where there will be people you have not met before so that you increase your chances of meeting that special someone.
5) Balance socializing with personal time
This may seem a little counterintuitive, but you might be socializing too much. Of course it helps to get out in order to meet someone, but if you are always going to the same places with the same clique of people, you could be denying yourself the opportunity to meet that special someone. If your idea of socializing is going out on the town with several people, you might want to consider taking some personal time and go out by yourself. Either try to go somewhere that is new or perhaps to the same places you usually go but by yourself. In this way you can get a new perspective on the people around you and it could even allow someone who has been trying to get your attention a chance to open up to you that they might not have tried when you were surrounded by your friends.
6) Be ready when least expected
You never know when love will come knocking and first impressions are hard to mend if you are not on your best behavior. Always smile at people you first meet -- and especially the ones that you have met a hundred times! Be pleasant and open to others, and when someone gives you some attention, be polite and return their attention with a compliment. If you are having a bad day, try to catch yourself and let your negative emotions go. Try to see yourself from someone else's point of view. Are you happy or irritable? Remember that most people do not get a chance at a second impression, so make your first one your best one.
7) Focus on what you really want
This is a very important thing to remember. Your reality at this time is a combination of your thought and your choices. But it all starts with a single thought. Any building or structure you see was once only a thought, what you are seeing is the thoughts and actions of the person that designed the building and their vision. Your life is the structure of your thoughts and actions. So if you are not happy with your current situation, take some time and think about what you really want. Write these thoughts down on paper in order to give your thoughts some form of reality that you can actually see. This will be the beginning of manifesting your hopes and dreams. Write down all the positive things you would like in a relationship, also write down all the positive things you have to offer. Focus on these things and if you catch yourself thinking negatively, stop and remember your list. Focus on the things you want and not the things you do not have in order to bring positive change into your life.
8) It's okay to be happy all by yourself too
This is the most important thing of all. If you are not happy with yourself, it will be hard to be happy with someone else. It is okay to feel good about being alone if this makes you happy at this time. You do not need to feel uncomfortable about not having a relationship just because this is a holiday that most people relate to having a partner to share it with. If you are happy with yourself you will be happy at this time too. It is important to like yourself so that if you decide that a relationship would be nice then you can like someone else for liking you. If you find yourself alone at this time, maybe instead of being disappointed with yourself for not having a relationship, look at the things that you really like about you. Let your negative feelings drift away and fill the emptiness with thoughts and feelings of what you like about yourself at this time. Do not worry so much about future you, just focus on what you like about you at this time. When you are comfortable with that, look to the improvements you might like to try in the future. We are all on a journey and enjoying the journey is the important thing -- after all, once you reach the destination then you have nowhere else left to go! So make the best of the time you have with the person that you will always be with no matter what -- yourself!
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