Dear Cristina,
I am 61 years old, taking care of my grandson and grown son and daughter-in-law. They get work and then it ends after a while. I don't make much disability and we are struggling. Are my finances going to get better and am I going to sell the house my mother left to me that I am living in now?
Sincerely,
Debra D
Blessings Debra, and thank you for submitting your question.
I see you as a blessed person, one who does what she can for the people she loves. And although this is a great purpose you have in your life to help those you can, you can't always be so self-sacrificing because in the end it breaks you down. If you are down, you can't make the difference you wish to make because your enthusiasm and energy are gone.
Your son and his wife have not always made good choices for themselves, which is why they find themselves in this predicament. You already know it's better to allow them to make their own path and journey. But you continue to have them there for the sake of your grandson more than anything else. The good news is, things change, and your family will someday have a place of their own and jobs they can maintain. Your son would probably do better with his own one-person business, which I see would be his best option.
You ask if you are going to sell your home. The choice to sell it is yours. I see eventually you will sell it, not just for the financial need, but also to start over. A good time to sell would be over the summer. Your personal finances will eventually get better as your son and daughter-in-law learn to make their own way and find jobs they can maintain. This most likely will happen after you sell the house and they find they have to get a place that fits their needs better.
My prayers for you and your family today.
Much love and light,
Cristina
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