Dear Cristina,
I am going through a tough divorce. He had me removed from our home without any clothes, etc. He hid my car, and even took my name off of our banking acct. I don't know which way to turn. Can you advise me?
Love and prayers,
Zoe D.
Blessings, Zoe,
A tough divorce like yours can be difficult for anyone and you are not alone as many people have found themselves in your situation. The things he has done to you, like removing you from your home and not allowing you your personal items, is a manipulative and emotional response from your husband that will pass. Although it's best not to go home again, he will allow you to get your personal items. Also, you can go to the police to get back your car. As far as money goes there are social services that can help you. You should try your local women's shelter for resources and leads to help you get money, a job, and other things. Take advantage of what is out there for you, there are programs and all is not lost.
Spiritually, you are going through a grieving process. The death of the marriage can be just as harsh as the death of a loved one. Your relationship began on a high note, there was excitement, and hope for the future in the beginning. So when the relationship fails it's normal to experience profound disappointment, stress, and grief. This whole breakup launched you into unknown territory, and uncharted waters, but you'll get through it as you have many things in your life.
Surround yourself with people who care, friends, or social service programs if you feel you have no friends, because sometimes we can feel there is NO one in our life. Look around you, I see others who can help you get through this.
I see these upsets with your husband have been going on for a long while. Please do not consider going back to him as things will never be good between you. Instead look forward, you can't control the past but YOU CAN control your future. I see you with the capacity, imagination, and strength to recreate yourself and build up your life in a way that is spectacular. If you wish a more detailed reading, please contact me via chat or phone.
Much love and light,
Cristina
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