Hello Christina,
I left my ex last July, because he didn’t give me a choice. He invited a "friend" to stay for the summer, which in the end was more than a friend, and worse he never admitted it. So I had to leave for my heart and my self-esteem. It has been very hard, and it still is
Since then we didn't talk, but we stayed friends on Facebook (very bad idea, but too hard to cut). In the meantime, the girl apparently left, and he is in love with a new one.
My question is, is this man going to be part of my future ? I still have a lot of feelings for him, but as we already had a big lack of communication before, and it is not getting better. I have no idea about his feelings. So if you tell me that the girl he is with is the one for him, and he is completely over me, maybe it will help me move forward.
Thank you
Jolie
Blessings Jolie!
Thank you for submitting your question and allowing me to answer it. You are a very wise woman my dear because you already know your ex is not good for you. He is not good for your self-respect, not good for you emotionally or spiritually. Yet you still hang on to the hope that he’ll come to see you are the best woman he can have. Yet he can’t meet those expectations. They are not your expectations but his own. He has never felt he was worthy of you to begin with. And he may have told you this. His own issues with self-esteem keep him attracting the wrong women, and the wrong circumstances. The most honest thing I can tell you is to let him go once and for all, but I see it is too difficult for you to do.
He will not remain with the girl he is with, but he will continue to choose other women before meeting the challenge of taking back a good, strong woman like yourself. He cannot seem to match your spirit or who you are. You deserve someone who just loves you, and he can’t seem to love you in the way you seek. Otherwise, there would be no room for these other women. Eventually you’ll let go, because you will come to heal with time and space between you. Every day that passes there is no word from him, in the end you’ll come to see what a blessing this is. He cannot be over you, because he is incapable of loving someone enough to get to a place where he has to “get over them.” But don’t hang on to the hope of him being in your life again, because you will waste your time, and life is a banquet, enjoy it and let go of the past.
My prayers for your happiness and success.
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Much love and light,
Cristina
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