Dear Cristina:
I moved to Washington, D.C. two years ago from Iowa and I’ve since been working for an international organization. I met my boyfriend three months after I moved here, through work, and things have been going well… but…
My boyfriend is a wonderful man, and he is very protective of me. He is international but seems to want to adapt to life in America, but I am just afraid that maybe we’ll have problems in the future because I don’t know a lot about his country. When things get serious, I’m not sure how my parents and relatives will react. He is from a different background, and while he enjoys celebrating Thanksgiving and Christmas, there is a part of me that feels insecure about the future: I don’t want my children to celebrate holidays that I have no connection with.
I don’t want to break up because of a future that’s right now only in my head – but I am still afraid. I am enjoying my life in D.C., meeting a lot of international people etc., but I am not sure how far I am willing to change. I can’t talk about these with my boyfriend, because he is proud of his culture, and I’m afraid I’ll break his heart.
Thank you so much.
ConfusedDaily
Cristina's Answer
Blessings my dear and thank you for allowing me to do this short reading for you. Your own spirit or spirit guide is already talking to you. You are with this man because you don’t wish to hurt him, but not because you are in love with him. You must ask yourself what the “highest love” would be in this situation. Staying in a relationship where you are obviously unhappy? Or letting him go free to find someone who he would be more compatible with?
I know you love being with him, but also see that in the long haul the cultural differences between you would take its toll. Although his beliefs and holidays may be beautiful in many ways, they simply don’t resonate with you. There is nothing to feel guilty about. It simply is, what it is. You also know, with all these new people you meet the opportunities to find real love are endless. But you must make a decision.
What is the spiritual solution to this problem? You worry about breaking his heart. But dragging it on would break his heart more. And most importantly, you would not be true to yourself if you continue this relationship. You lose yourself trying to make him happy, and in the end neither one would end up happy. The spiritual solution would be to set you both free to explore and attract real love into your lives.
There was a reason you met. You both needed each other at that particular time and space. You learned from each other, you enjoyed each other’s company. So the karmic cycle is now over, you are both ready to move on. Perhaps not so much him, but it’s better to have a clean break now, than hurt him worse later.
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Much love and light,
Cristina
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