Dear Cristina,

My life is very tough day by day, and sometimes I even think that if I commit suicide it might be helpful for me...

I love someone passionately. Once upon a time he also loved me too. We both were very happy in our life at that time. But, nowadays he doesn't love and trust me like before. Yes, I'm responsible for that because I never said something to him about my past relationship, that was not a big thing, but now he doesn't love me like earlier... Please, Cristina, I want to get back my love like it used to be. Please help me…

Thanks & Regards,
Purbasha

Blessings Purbasha,

Thank you for submitting your concern. You ask to get your love life back as before, but life changes all the time, we are constantly learning, constantly turning a page. I wish I had a magic wand to make him love you as he did before, but there is no such magic.

Often when we are in a lower vibration, where we feel self-doubt and agonize over our past, we get stuck in so much pain that we feel ending our lives is a better option. But you must remember the universe rewards our perseverance in life and our ability to ride through tough times and gain strength from experience.

We have the power to love, which is a great gift, and love comes in many forms. But we cannot control someone else. We cannot control their feelings, we have no control over their destiny. The only gift we have is to just love them without expectations, without demands. There are many who have experienced what you are experiencing right now, Purbasha. They accepted the truth -- that love had changed in the relationship and with this acceptance came a stronger love, after they had gained the internal strength and peace that allured new love into their life.

Although this is a cliché, suicide is truly a permanent solution to a temporary problem. If you truly feel suicidal, I urge you to contact the International Suicide Hotline. or if in the USA, call: 1-800-273-8255 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

Your life is a precious gift. Your true purpose is to be joyful, to love and serve others. You can find great joy in the garden, the weather, family, and other people who would be devastated if you were gone. Including your lover. My prayers are with you. Namaste

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