Dear Cristina,
I've been told to wait for this man whom I love. I have been very patient, and I feel he loves me but is afraid! I'm wondering should I wait any longer or move on? Thank you for listening.
---Elaine
Blessings Elaine, and thank you for submitting your question.
It looks like you've been waiting long enough. When I drew a card for you I got the
Nine of Wands, meaning you've been beating your head against the wall, wondering why he doesn't just come around already. You've had great patience in waiting for him to be ready to show his love. You feel he loves you, but he hasn't demonstrated any of that love. I can see there is bare communication between you. Loving you would mean he couldn't spend one moment without you in his life! And yet I see no effort on his part to make this relationship work. I just see you courageously hanging on.
Even though you've been told by a few people that you should wait for him, your own spirit is starting to show you it's better to let go. You are willing to wait if you knew for SURE he is coming around. He is not. You know this within yourself already. I feel you are preparing yourself to move on. Because instinctively you know you deserve better, that you are amazing and what you have to offer builds people up. You never tear anyone down, which is why this guy was attracted to you in the first place. But I see too many barriers with him, too many issues from the past that he is still dealing with. I see depression around him, and a feeling that you may be too good for him. He holds back his love for many reasons, but the main reason he holds back is because he doesn't love himself enough to allow himself to be happy.
Moving on is your best option. You free yourself of the doubt, you accept what is, and you move forward. You are too good a person to just wait around for someone, not when you have so much to offer! Free yourself of this person who makes you unhappy. Thinking about him, hoping he'll come around, WAITING for him has not made you in the least bit happy. Happiness is a choice. Choose happiness and break free once and for all.
Much love and light,
Cristina
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