Why We Need Love on Valentine's Day
and Every Day Beyond

Written By Expert Aswynn Willowroot

As Valentine’s Day approaches, there is an often-overlooked greater significance to the annual day we set aside for the celebration of love. The commercialization of this holiday tends to overshadow the much more relevant aspect quietly hidden behind the exchange of gifts of chocolate, flowers and heartfelt greeting cards.

Love, at its core, is the very breath of life. It is the invisible power which inspires us, motivates us and gives depth and meaning to the human experience.

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“Love is as critical for your mind and body as oxygen,” writes Ellen McGrath in her article, “The Power of Love,” for Psychology Today.

Love is not just an emotional need. It is a fundamental physical need which, if left unfulfilled, has the potential to impact our sense of well-being and quality of life.

“It is also true that the less love you have, the more depression you are likely to experience in your life. Love is probably the best antidepressant there is because one of the most common sources of depression is feeling unloved. Most depressed people don’t love themselves and they do not feel loved by others. They also are very self-focused, making them less attractive to others and depriving them of opportunities to learn the skills of love,” continues McGrath.

In order to acquire the skills of love we must first understand one of love’s most primary truths. Regardless of where we are in life or what our past experience is in love, it is our destiny to recreate love in our lives anew.

“The path to love isn’t a choice, for all of us must find out who we are. This is our spiritual destiny. The path can be postponed; you can lose faith in it or even despair that love exists. None of that is permanent; only the path is,” writes physician and holistic health author Deepak Chopra.

The first step of the love journey, and probably the most difficult, is to take a deep breath while teetering on the edge of the cliff of uncertainty to make the conscious choice to allow love to enter our lives rather than succumb to fear and run away.

“The reason that ego and love are not compatible comes down to this: you cannot take your ego into the unknown, where love wants to lead. If you follow love, your life will become uncertain, and the ego craves certainty,” writes Chopra.

The next step, and probably the most important, is to realize love is a contact sport. It requires a willingness to act, take chances and commit to a hoped outcome with no definitive promise of a happy ending.

“There is a mythology in our culture that love just happens. As a result, the depressed often sit around passively waiting for someone to love them. But love doesn’t work that way. To get love and keep love you have to go out and be active and learn a variety of specific skills,” writes McGrath.

The key to acquiring those specific skills starts here. Whether you're single, struggling to move your connection to the next level or looking to fan the flames of an already-steamy romance, you can find customized advice to make your love life sizzle!

Tune in for my expanded all-you-need-to-know Valentine’s Day special feature coming in February!

Ask Cristina!

Dear Cristina,

I do so hope you may look favorably upon my question and provide some guidance for me.

I feel that life is not all it should be for me, I live alone and feel very lonely although I do have family. I miss the company of another adult and would like a relationship. Is this a possibility for me in the coming year as at the moment I seem only to have work to focus on. That is another issue which I also hope will be resolved in my favor this year.

Many thanks for any glimmer of hope you can offer.

God bless - Linda G.

Blessings to you, Linda,

Thank you for allowing me to answer your question today. Work, responsibilities, and just tending to family at times keeps you where you are. I can tell you no one will come to work or to your home to meet you. You have to change your lifestyle to attract the love and companionship you seek. The future doesn't just happen to us, we create it with the free will choices we make in the present moment.

You are a wonderful loving person and I see you beloved among your family and even coworkers. So you won't have trouble attracting love into your life once you choose to change your routine a bit. And I'm not saying you should go to the bars to pick up someone or even TRY to meet anyone. He will find YOU once your vibration has changed. You have to change your mind about yourself and about your life. Take a look at times you have off work and make plans to do something fun. Either take a dance class, or join a gym, or go rock climbing. Whatever you choose, do something that is fun for you. Even if it's joining a book club where there are other people to chat with. You may ask, well how is this going to bring love into my life? How is this going to bring companionship? The way it works is that you have to find joy. Your joy, what you love to do and do it. This raises your vibrational level. We are all spiritual beings having human experiences. As spiritual beings we strive to feel joy. This light of joy you create for yourself, this fun, will attract others into your life. Not just new friends, but a new lover and companion as well. You may think you don't have time to find some fun because work has been such a focus, but I promise once you find time for yourself and find time to enjoy life as it is, then you will meet the one you are intended to be with. Don't worry about work, you are extremely talented and will meet your goals there. That is the least of your worries. Creating a life that is full of fun and joy is your real challenge.

God bless you dear my prayers for your happiness are with you today. XO

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